I live the perfect love for a year with my friend, divorcing and father of a little girl. Everything would go so well if it was possible to forget from time to time his "dear" ex-wife (well still not quite "ex-").
I have never met this woman, and do not wish it but the little that could be told about her, and the tantrums she can provoke at my friend's house must call to talk to his daughter, bristle me and make me want to give him a lesson worthy of the name.
Indeed, she loves to belittle my friend, to insult him, to treat him as incapable and worthless when the little girl comes on holiday at home or when he goes to visit her. In addition, for a week, he can no longer reach his daughter by phone, his ex-wife refusing to give him his phone number (supposedly because she is harassed by a stranger). Yet they have lived together for 8 years, and I admit to having trouble understanding his attitude, especially when I am helpless in the face of the pain my friend may feel. To see her daughter only one weekend a month, and not even to be able to talk to her when he needs it ...
The few times that the little one came to the house (500 km separate the two homes), j I noticed that she behaved in the same way as her mother. She belittles her father, responds to him, never obeys, it's crisis on crisis ... And she's only six ... I do not have any children, but I still have some principles of education who are not those followed by my friend. The little girl does not know what parental authority is, she has no notion of respect and politeness. There is only she who counts. I am aware that the poor little girl has nothing to do with it and that she must also be disturbed by the separation of her parents, but I have a hard time making the difference.
The low esteem I have for this woman rubs off on the relationships I have with the little one. I can say that she has nothing to do with it, I sometimes hate her as much as her mother when she is so adorable when her father is not there. I do not know how to conduct myself towards my friend, his daughter, his ex-wife. I'm lost. I live this situation more and more badly. I do not even want to have a child anymore.