It is often taboo, sometimes even forbidden, and is the subject of many fantasies. But love in the office is especially a reality: almost a third of couples would meet at work. Investigation of a perilous exercise.
When Olive344, one of our psychonauts, and his partner met at the financial consultancy in which they both worked, they first tried to hide their relationship. Like the majority of couples who start an intimate relationship at the office. But like many cases, "things have been known and everything has deteriorated, problems of trust, unsaid, misunderstandings have appeared within our team." Result? The two lovers ended up leaving the company. "But we are always together! Love in the office? It's a very delicate game, to try only if the person is worth the candle!". "No zob in job "says the well-known proverb. However, the professional world is one of the most favorable places to meet - according to a study by Monster, in Europe, 30% of couples would meet elsewhere - and the most innovative companies would be those where intimate relationships are most numerous. "Who is with whom?" A banal discussion that takes place every day in front of all the coffee machines. But which reflects a reality much more complicated than it looks and above all, not without danger.
Between taboo and fantasies
Love in the office, we talk about it everywhere: in the canteen, in the corridors, during breaks ... Except, to believe Loïck Roche, author of Cupid at work (Ed. Organization), between leaders and managers of human resources companies. "When asked if there is intimate or sexual relations within their organization, most of the time, they answer" No, there is no such thing here. "If they accept that people can take 10 minutes to smoke a cigarette, it is inconceivable that they can spend that time kissing each other. on the other hand, an unofficial hierarchy was created by the pleasure of bodies, escaping from the official hierarchy. " In the United States, some companies even prohibit their employees from dating. Love in the office: a subject that remains taboo but makes it fantasize more than one. Who has never had a desire for his boss, his co-worker, the new guy or the new trainee?
A place for meetings
It must be said that the business world is an ideal place to meet someone."It plays a role, says Loïck Roche.In contrast to home, we are obliged to pay attention, to dress properly, to respect the rules of civility.At the job interview, we are in a seduction report. " In addition, we spend most of our time there and we work with people who have the same interests as us ... What makes the meeting easier. "It came like this, after 6 months, says Marie, 35. We used to spend a lot of time together, we often went to lunch together, we finally got to know each other, and we discovered the same tastes. And if we are told that love and work do not mix, everything invites us to mix private and professional lives. Meet late at night, work dinners, parties, seminars ... Difficult sometimes to establish a border.