To be sure to have taken everything away, to anticipate the unexpected of the trip, to note the emergency numbers in case of need ... For many parents, the first ones holidays with a baby are adventure. Their main anxiety? Material constraints. However, it is elsewhere that is often the real difficulty. That of adapting, for a short time, to a new environment.
"We will always be missing something"
"This summer, with our little Tom aged 5 months, we decided to take our holidays in August. destination that we are not used to privileging, lovers of exoticism and travel that we are, but it appeared to us the most practical, thanks to the TGV that leads us in just four hours. and therefore comfort assured by booking the tickets even before the birth of Tom! But between the bed umbrella, the tub reducer, the changing mat, 20 washable diapers, baby bottles, two boxes of milk first age (in case I will not find it on the spot) and our suitcases, I begin to wonder if we will really get there ... Without forgetting its creams, the paracetamol and other necessities arranged in a small pharmacy of relief. is that we will always miss something. " Like many young parents, Alix, 25, has planned everything. At least from a practical point of view. "There is a big difference between what a small child feels like an adult when it comes to vacation time. life, and unusual commotion around him "explains Marcel Rufo, child psychiatrist, in his guide Raise baby (Hachette Pratique). Because if the attention of the parents, before the big departure, is especially monopolized by the preparations, for the baby, it is especially the fact to see his parents waving all around him which can suddenly be source of anxiety.
Getting Ready for the Journey
Like adults, children also need to prepare for change. And even if Tom is only five months old, he will be calm if his parents explain to him why everything is suddenly jostling around him. That is why it is essential to talk to your child from a very young age. Because it is especially the tone of voice that reassures the infant. It is not necessary to give him much details on how the holidays will unfold. However, the more the child grows, the more precise one can be.
From a certain age, about 18 months, it is possible to involve him in the preparations, for example by asking him to choose the toys he wants to take.The opportunity to explain to him clearly that he will leave the house for several days (and thus several nights), to live in another house. Stuffed animals, comforters, night lights and other music boxes will allow him to find a little home in this elsewhere.
Upon arrival in the place of residence, why not visit together, to invest the places and to appropriate them. Open all the doors, including the cupboards, and put aside the anxiety, quite legitimate, that can cause a closed door which we do not know what it opens. Secured and reassured by the presence of familiar objects, babies will be ready to spend beautiful moments with their family.
For the couple, who could already achieve some holiday rituals, lovers or friends, it will surely have to review his habits. Because to leave with a baby requires some adaptations. Like give up on certain activities: For late risers, the beach during the hottest hours (11h-16h), the noisy nightlife (nightclubs, concerts ...), gourmet restaurants.
But this does not mean that families are doomed to boring holidays, quite the opposite! What a pleasure to do for the first time soaking his baby's feet in the water and share together a first sea bath, clinging to our neck. To see him taste the sand with enthusiasm, sometimes even with full mouth. To make him listen to the song of the cicadas, to smell the scented odors of the markets. So many experiences and discoveries that will undoubtedly sharpen his curiosity. As for walks, parks, zoos and other outdoor outings in the area will be better suited to this new family configuration.
Adapting to the rhythm of your baby is not so restrictive. Many people will be able to enjoy nap moments and rediscover the pleasure of relaxing on vacation. Especially after having lived the first months of her baby, rarely a great rest. And then, children too, know how to adapt. By gradually shifting the bedtime, some will even have the chance to see their child wake up later in the morning. And put himself, too, to the rhythm of the holidays.
Being flexible is also a guarantee of serenity when you leave the house with a baby. He can not stand the trip anymore and screams in the car? Do not have an imposed time of arrival makes it possible to take the time to take a break, even if to stop several hours to leave later. He gets sick on the day of the boat trip to the neighboring islands? Do not worry, since you have opted for an editable booking.